Your Stories

We would love to here from anyone who has a story connected with adoption. Just email us your story and we will add it to our site. We can include photos if you send them to us, by clicking on this text.

My name is Steven. I am an adoptee. I was getting married Aug 2001. I was desperate to have my mother there thanks to all the help at Birth Family Online. I had my wish my birth mother and my birth brother we able to enjoy the day along with my adoptive family. You can see my wedding photos on the Photo section. And since that day I have been re-united with my birth-sister. I was lucky as all my family were behind me in my search (and I would like to say a special thank you to my sister Connie who was my rock through all this). My Mom had died a few years before but she was the one who inspired me to search. I had been bought up knowing I was adopted and knowing until I was about a year and half old my B/Mom had stayed in touch. I had a photo of me with her at my first birthday party. I was always told by Mom and Dad she didn't just give me up lightly but never told me the reasons. This was my first question to her. We now see each other regularly. I stay in touch with Birth Family online., so if I can help anyone just let Maddy or Carol know and I will do what ever I can as I will never be able to repay them for all there hard work.
Steven WOW we were really up against it with you but we did it and had a wonderful at your wedding 'Thank you for the invite' Keep in touch ..Carol and Maddy


Sue,
A Success Story


I first started my search when I was in my early twenties, in fact this is the third time that I have decided to look for my birth family. The determining factor this time were my children; mainly my daughter, we share the same birthday. The day she was born felt so surreal and cruel to me, here I was holding this beautiful little baby girl. It dawned on me that 27 years ago to that day my birth mother would have held me...I had never been anyones baby before, always someone's daughter or sister but never some ones baby. After the birth of my son I felt it was necessary to find out not only where I was from, my roots but also what medical history I had. At the beginning of the year I embarked upon the search in detail, phoning different organisations and looking on the internet for information. I discovered a whole new world of adopted people birth mothers and people effected by adoption some way or another. All these people were looking for someone, scared and hurting inside, just like me...suddenly I didn't feel alone anymore, I had found that I wasn't the only one who was confused and scared.
The search became an obsession and I got frustrated with red tape and dead ends...endless postings on different boards would raise my hopes and never a response. In March I had my section 51 counselling with social services. They gave me details from my adoption order; names of my birth family and other details. Then one evening I found this site, and seen a name that corresponded with the names I had been given.
I e-mailed Carol and Maddy, hoping that at last I might have struck gold....guess what...wrong person!! However, this was fated. Maddy asked me for all the details I had, which I gave gladly...within days we had a telephone number and I was offered the intermediate service.
I won't pretend that it was easy for me to agree because I was soooooo scared that another rejection was around the corner, but I did agree. Maddy told me the time that they were going to ring the number and for me to come on line that evening and check my e mails. All day I was nervous and irratable, but I hadn't told anyone except my husband and he was in work! When I checked my emails there it was....'RING US NOW!!'
I was so nervous, Carol had made contact with my birth aunty and my birth mother. I just broke down in tears, I was shaking and felt sick with anticipation. My birth mother wanted me to ring her as soon as possible...so I did. The whole experience was very strange, here I was talking to the person who gave birth to me but a complete stranger...and what is more I have another brother and a sister, and lots of aunties.
We have met and we chat over the phone, slowly forming a friendship. It was really strange to see people who actually look like me, same hand jestures and facial expressions! I know who I get my hair and skin from and my height.
All this is down to Carol and Maddy, if it wasn't for these two very special ladies, I would still be looking and feeling frustrated. Since I have found her I have felt a peace within me like I have never felt before...it is a lovely feeling and one I will keep and treasure. Whatever happens in the future between me and my birth family will be ok, whether we are friends or loose touch...I have found them and that is all that matters.

Thank You once again Carol and Maddy, you are truly wonderful people. Sue Cooper
Sue what can we say it was a pleasure to help and meet such a nice sincere lady, good luck and best wishes from Maddy and Carol




Tracey's Story

My name is Tracey and from the age of 11 I was in care. When I was 15 I found out that I was pregnant, social services would not allow me to keep my baby and he was placed for adoption. When I was taken away from the hospital when my son was 6 days old I felt like someone had torn my heart out. Pretend it never happened, think of him as dead, your young you can have more children, think of the good life he will have. All these words of wisdom from so many people and not one of them knew how I felt. I did have more children, another 5, but that didn't make the pain go away, if anything it made it worse, then I really knew all the things I had missed in my sons life. I am now reunited with my son, he will be 22 this year. I know I am a very lucky woman. My son had also wanted to find me and had also felt that his life was not complete, he did have a wonderful childhood with a family that provided well for him and loved him, but he still wanted me. So to all you birth parents out there that are searching for your children I would like to wish you luck. I know what it is like to go through life with an aching in your heart, but please for the sake of your absent sons and daughters,
NEVER give up.
Good luck to you all
Tracey
Kind words Tracy and we really appreciate them, good luck for the future from Carol and Maddy




Peter's Own Words

I had known from an early age that I had been adopted and had never really thought much about my birth mother. That was until my daughter was born, then the question of where I came from never left my mind. I surfed the net in a vain attempt hoping to uncover some small clue and realised how much work was involved. That is when two wonderful ladies came into my life, Carol and Maddy. Once I had passed on all the info they required it took just one week for an e-mail to arrive saying, "please call, get the hint". The next day I received a call from my birth mother and boy what an experience! I have never had so many emotions in such a short space of time. I have now meet my birth mother and my three brothers( this might come as a surprise to Carol and Maddy who were told I had one brother) and we are slowly building a close relationship. I now feel a complete person with an inner peace I could only have dreamed of, until Carol and Maddy made such a profound impact in my life. I cannot thank them enough for they're hard work and sensitive approach, I will be forever in their debt.
All I can say to anyone starting a search or anyone who has been searching for a while, never give up, you never know what tomorrow might bring.
If I can ever be of help to anyone, especially in Northern Ireland please do not hesitate to contact me.
Your friend forever, Peter.
Thanks Peter and we wish you all the luck in the world. It is because of people like you that we will continue with this site. From Carol and Maddy


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